What you and Jenna Bush have in common

When you are first engaged and planning your wedding, people tend to immediately expect you to know:

• When is it
• Where is it going to be
• If they are invited

There is a lot of pressure to know all the answers. Not only do you feel that you need to know the answers, but that the answers are going to be "right" for the person who is asking. Grandmother expects you to have a large church wedding with a reception in the great hall, your college friends are expecting a huge blow out bash, or your parents think you should just elope and use the money on a home. While opinions are good to have, the only thing that matters is what you and your soon to be care about.

Take the newly wed Jenna Bush for example. If anyone knows about pressure, it's her. With her dad being the President of our country, everyone-the media especially-wanted a huge black tie event at the White House. Good for her for taking in the moment, evaluating the situation, and saying no. Jenna's wedding at her family's ranch in Texas was perfect.

Follow Jenna Bush's lead and find what you really want. You only do this once, right?

White House photos by Shealah Craighead